Quarter of A Century

Happy International Women’s Month!

International Women’s Day 2022


That is a quarter of a century. Ever heard of a quarter life crisis? Lmao, that is what 2021 felt like. BUT;

 "Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail."
Lamentations 3:22

I will be sharing a few bible verses that we can always refer back to to remind ourselves of the goodness and faithfulness of God. The bible says

"They defeated him through the blood of the Lamb
    and the bold word of their witness.
They weren’t in love with themselves;
    they were willing to die for Christ." 
Revelations 12:11 (MSG)

This blog post hopes to be a reminder when things may appear bleak again, God is THE redeemer and a great restorer of ALL things 1 Peter 5: 6-11

Lamentations 3: 20 – 26 a great reference that whenever our soul is downcast we call on our memories of a good God, we trust Him and learn to patiently run to Him as our help and our savior. He is the lover of our soul and wants to see us prosper even as our soul prospers.

So let’s get into it shall we.

25 year old

It blows my mind when I think of the fact that little, old me has been on this earth for 25 years. It is quite fascinating that as a young girl my expectations and the image I had of someone at that age is totally grandiose and extraordinary. I’m not too sure where those ideas came from, but I can blame it on societal expectations, cultural influences and unhealthy mindsets, but somehow it was a mindset I unknowingly found myself succumbing too even if I ebbed and flowed through what I took on. I would like to think of myself as someone that doesn’t always like to fall into societal expectations and to fit the mold people tell me to. I am fearfully and wonderfully made by my creator God, therefore I am one of one. That is to say there is only one Toluwabori Morenike Ajidagba on planet earth.

Yet, I wasn’t feeling fulfilled.

In fact I feel a stagnancy in my career and academic goals. That added with feeling like rather than heading towards developing some financial goals it was like I was moving away from them. Relationally in fact let’s not even go there. It was a great blessing to hear and see from afar a few people I knew get married and begin the journey to start their own families. Yet somehow I felt like I was on the outskirts of this and not able to fully participate in this new season everyone else seemed to be in.

Say self-entitlement much? I say self-entitled because I went so far as to neglect what I felt God called me to do because I was feeling some type of way.

"What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may increase? God forbid! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?" 
Romans 6:1-2 (MEV)
Deep in Thought

It raised questions and inadequacies within myself as I felt was I not good enough to be blessed with an thriving career as well, to soar in my academics, to be financially buoyant and to have purposeful and mutually edifying relationships? But now l have experiential knowledge that indeed God works all things together for our good. Who remembers this bible verse in John 9:3 (NIV) that said:

“Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him."

It’s not because of something inherently wrong with this person but situations occurred so that God will be glorified in the most beautiful and awe- inspiring way.

If what I called ‘the quarter life crisis‘ hadn’t happened, I would never have had a self-reflecting period. I would never have thought to put this blog post together and publish it for several eyes to read. But from this word of my testimony, I can share with others the knowledge and insight God gave me during this period and hopefully it can be useful to to draw others close to the Father as well.

Mindset Shift

The transformation really began with a mindset shift. One of my favorite bible verses says

"Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you."
Romans 12:2 (MSG)

It required a mindset shift and the divine help of the Holy Spirit and yielding to that same Holy Spirit to change things. Guys, the battlefield of the mind is a real thing. It can manifest in the form of depression and mental health battles but I have never seen a battle that hasn’t already been won by the blood of Jesus Christ on the Cross.

Let’s not even approach the dark thoughts that plagued one’s mind during this period and the depression that clogged one’s mind. But as I said it is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed. It is only when you leave a dark pit and enter into glorious light that you can compare how wretched the previous state really was.

Even in terms of taking care of myself and caring about my appearance and how I presented myself I was at an all-time low. When you see someone not putting effort or being their normal self, it might be helpful to reach out as much as you can and check in with them. But glory be to God for the few times I was able to get up but some balm on the lips and stand. Grateful to loved ones that helped me in someway or another during this period. Listening to me rant, praying for me and over me, crying with me, providing counsel, calling and checking up on me, speaking word of life and refreshment over me and just generally being present even while I was in a funk. Ultimately I needed an encounter with the living God to breathe life back into those dead areas of my life. Those places I had lost hope in and was feeling hopeless. I needed the light of God to come into those areas. It was time to be brutally honest with God and but away all pretenses. It is only God we can truly be open and vulnerable with. Sometimes human beings are there to support us but they are not our creator, therefore cannot provide all that our soul desperately needs.

See God can only help and assist us in those areas we show to Him and not just what we want to neatly present before Him.

Worthy Sons & Daughters

So I have come to remind someone and maybe my future self that we are worthy not because of what we bring, or the roles we play or what we can offer people. We are worthy because we belong to Jesus Christ. He has declared us worthy. We are sons and daughters of the most High God.

Our identity is found in Christ not what people call or label us

Now we do not neglect the fact that if you do NEED help, please reach out and check out therapy opportunities near you. These days there are so many Christian based counsellors and therapists that can help. One of the resources I have found is Dr. Anita Phillips, she is an incredible therapist that uses biblical understanding to support psychological treatments. Therapy is not just for when things start going wrong, but if you feel led to try therapy please do! So many people we see outside fighting unknown battles that do not show on the face but yet is weighing heavy on the heart and soul. God knows. We can lay our burdens on Him. He will always present a way and some form of relief. He never puts us in situations greater than what we can handle. He is always providing and showing a way out either through His Word or through his hands and feet on Earth in the form of a brother or a sister or through inspired songs. We just have to lean into His ever present help. Sometimes you need someone to lean into, to hold you up before you can even enter and draw from God’s help.

May we be a support for others in their time of need and may God send us the right type of support in our time of need.

Ultimately I learnt that a quarter life crisis is not a real thing but a fallacy. One of my biggest lessons during this period is learning to live beyond my feelings. Yes, feelings are valid and we are allowed to feel them but they are not always true and we should not base our actions and live our lives solely based on fleeting emotions.

Fleeting feelings and changing emotions

I am well into my 25th year on earth and I am loving what God is doing in this season. I am learning to lean into Him and trust Him. Laying all my desires at His feet trusting that His plans are greater than I could EVER fathom.

Our testimony as minute as it may seem or as much as we do not want to post it on the world wide web (HELLO!), yet if just one person can receive hope and be reminded to draw close to Jesus, to bring their burdens to Him, then post away! To see the goodness and faithfulness in the life of this young girl on a mission and see how God redeemed what seemed to be a hopeless and desolate situation, He can surely and He will surely do it for you.

We just need to draw into Him.

Draw Near to Him

It is in quietness and gentleness that we will receive strength. Are you looking to find fulfilment or fullness of joy in our career, family, relationships, finances or otherwise ? As great and amazing as these things are, looking for fulfilment in these things apart from God is folly, because none of those things WILL truly satisfy our souls. We will always be left wanting more, it can only fill us for a moment. God is the everlasting well that never runs dry. That means He is able and capable to keep sustaining and replenishing our souls.

"He satisfies me with good things
    and makes me young again, like the eagle."
Psalms 103:5

Only God has the ability to satisfy our desires with good things. He takes our desires, repurposes and reshapes it according to His will so that it:

  • fits His agenda for the betterment of our soul and brings fulfilment and pleasure for us
  • brings glory to his name and advances His Kingdom.

He renews our youth and we do not tire ourselves out by chasing after those things in our understanding and strength but rather we lean into Him and trust Him to be our Jehovah Jireh (God Our Provider).

Girl on a Mission

We will always be people on a mission as long as God has put breath in our lungs and as long as we are present in our mortal bodies on this earth. But as a woman becoming all God has purposed her to be, I can understand that I will always need to draw on the strength of my heavenly Father and have certain moments when I really draw from my awesome and loving community to get me through tough times. That is the only way we can do this thing called life successfully.

Girl on a Mission

For me this mean practically writing out my goals and allowing myself to pivot in my career path. It meant connecting and networking with people in the same academic station with me to encourage and motivate each other. It means financially planning for my future and learning things pending the time I will be ready to actually set and achieve those goals. Relationally it means addressing certain issues within myself, and first of all reminding myself that having purposeful relationships is very important to me. Learning to allow myself to desire a committed and intentional relationship that will one day lead to a God honoring marriage and to build a kingdom minded family.

Whatever might look like a crisis to you, invite God into your situations and He can provide ways to defuse the situation and bring about divine peace and clarity.

To all my quarter-centurions, I salute us! We are on this journey together and I am so excited to see how we each grow and make Kingdom impact in our individual spheres of influence. May we grow more in love with Jesus and grow in deeper fellowship with the Holy Spirit. May our soul continue to prosper even as we prosper in ALL our various roles.

Onwards & Upwards!

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Mo 🙂


This speaks of a reliable and steadfast nature that is rooted in following through with what we say we will do and in staying committed to the cause whatever that may be.

Photo by Maahid Photos on Pexels.com Faithfulness requires staying the course

It requires being focused, trustworthy and loyal to the cause. We achieve this by staying committed and in continued submission to Christ and His word. We are obedient to the yielding of the Holy Spirit and are committed to following through the foundations laid by His Word.

One thing I know for sure, is that God is faithful! In sharp contrast to the feeble nature of human beings. We can try our very best to be faithful in our human understanding yet we it can be difficult to commit for the long haul.

But we have a Heavenly Father that’s faithful to us regardless of our faithlessness. It’s a part of his nature that he cannot abandon his children or a project. Everything we have ever needed at every point in time God has shown up for us.

Faithful God to Faithless People

Do you ever remember singing that song

“I have a God who never fails, Hallelujah! x3

Who never fails x3


Amen, Jesus never fails Hallelujah x3″

That is what comes to mind when I think of the faithfulness of God. Not like the faithfulness of man but God is ever steadfast, every sure and ALWAYS shows up all the time AND at the right time. God exists outside the confines of any restrictions. He is an uncreated creator therefore He does no have the human fallacies we as human beings have that sometimes makes us lose faith or makes us decrease in our commitments. God is fully committed to us.

“Your unfailing love, O Lord, is as vast as the heavens; your faithfulness reaches beyond the clouds.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭36:5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

God helps no punches or has any reservations when it comes to us as His children. We see God’s faithfulness to the Israelites. The beauty of God’s sovereignty is that He is in control and does as He pleases. And we already established last week that ultimately God is good. Therefore all that He does is ultimately for our good.

In Deuteronomy 28 we see that God is faithful to His Word above all. He told his people these are my commandments and my decrees, you keep them these are the blessings coming your way, you disobey them here are the consequences (please read it back at your own pace and leisure, this is a brief/fleeting summary).

But God isn’t just faithful when we are faithful. This bible chapter shows that above all else God is faithful to His word and exactly as he said was what he did to the Israelites back in the day.

This same God of the Old Testament still has that faithful attribute even though the consequences has become a little bit buffered because and through the person of Jesus Christ.

We still remember that obedience is required for faithful living.

Jesus Christ: Faithful Servant

This is seen most clearly (I feel like I have said this in every fruit of the spirit breakdown but it is absolutely true!), in the person of Jesus Christ. He was faithful to the end. Even till going to death on a cross for our sake.

Hebrews 3:6 (NIV)

But Christ is faithful as the Son over God’s house. And we are his house, if indeed we hold firmly to our confidence and the hope in which we glory

Jesus Christ as our example was firmly rooted and had his foundation in God. He was faithful over God’s House meaning ‘He don’t play about his Father’s business‘. He ensured that he was faithful in doing everything God called Him to do. His role as Son over God’s House means He is our authority figure. If we indeed are God’s House as the Church then that means we are to hold onto His example that it is possible to be faithful as well.

May God help us to be faithful in all our commitments. To be faithful servants in His house, faithful workers and stewards, faithful children, faithful spouses, faithful parents and faithful students.

Faithfulness requires Humility

We cannot faithfulness by ourselves. Despite all our unfaithfulness God remains faithful to us all. He is faithful to us but also faithful to Himself and to his nature.

"If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is." 
2 Timothy 2:13

He cannot deny Himself. We need to submit to God totally in order to share in the rich blessings and glory of being known as his faithful servant.

Who doesn’t want to hear at the end of this life journey

"Well done, my good and faithful servant! You have been faithful in handling the small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let's celebrate together!" 
Matthew 25:23

That story in Matthew 25 showcases perfectly how faithfulness works. It’s not a case of we are faithful and we get rewarded and that’s the end. It starts from a place of understanding and realizing that whatever God has placed us as stewards over is a great responsibility. It isn’t base on our ability or what we think of ourselves. We have been called to a higher assignment and we trust that the One that assigned us to it will provide the necessary skills and resources to bring it to fruition. Our job as faithful servants is to invest the seeds he has given to us. To reap bountiful fruits for His kingdom. The result then becomes that He gives us more responsibilities not so we can boast but because;

“If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities."  
Luke 16:10 NLT

If our aim is to be more like Jesus Christ who was faithful to the very end ensuring that he completed his mission on Earth and went to the cross no matter how difficult and painful it was. We can harness the strength and wisdom of the Holy Spirit to ensure we are faithful to complete the greater mission God has placed us on earth to do. Be like the faithful servants in Matthew 25: 20-23:

1. Face Your own work

2. Place your focus on your kingdom assignment and talent

3. Run your race with endurance and invest in God’s investments in you

4. Bring forth fruitful returns and always submit it back to the Master

Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. 

God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.

1 Thesssalonians 5: 23-24

Further study/References;

Charles Spurgeon – Faithful to Christ

Israel, My Glory


Mo 🙂

The Great Return Revisited

This month to celebrate International Women’s Month and in particular, International Women’s Day (March 8th), we will be starting a short spotlight series on #WomenBecoming as part of the #GirlOnAMission movement. It was an absolute pleasure to interview Susan Ajayi on her experiences traveling to Ghana as a young woman.

Thrilist recently published an article that highlighted the discrepancy in seeing the black traveler narrative online even though the contribution monetarily was quite large, yet somehow there wasn’t much of a narrative of the young black woman traveler, Why? Well, whatever the reason we must saturate the media with imagery and narratives of young black women travelers until it become normalized.

Black Women Travelers

Back to the Homeland

2019 was commissioned as the Year of Return by Ghana president Nana Akufo-Addo as an invitation to Africans in the Diaspora to forge ties and connections with their African brothers and sisters back home. Alternatively, In Nigeria the month of December has long been popularized as “Detty December” as a time notorious for Africans in the diaspora to return for premium enjoyment in food, entertainment and much more. The returnees being labeled ‘IJGB’ meaning ‘I Just Got Back‘ are very apparent at this time.

Ghana Must Go bags were previously popular in Nigeria

Personally, I remember a few years ago seeing Instagram flooded by successful Africans in the diaspora such as  Luvvie Ajayi, Bozoma Saint-John, Yvonne Orji and Boris & Nicole Kodjoe’s highlighting the beauty of the continent and showing others and their large audience that there is beauty in the modern motherland.

Susan saw this positive imagery just like me and she actually decided to do something about it! Susy is a twenty something Nigerian currently living in London, she works from home as a Project Administrator. Hope you learn a few things and are inspired by her experiences!

Why did you decide to travel to Ghana?

I decided to go to Ghana because in 2019 because of the YEAR OF RETURN initiative, I saw a lot of black celebrities in the US go back and I was also inspired to go back. But because of the coronavirus lockdown I had to postpone my trip in 2020. I didn’t know much about tourism in Ghana and my experience traveling to Nigeria was that I  didn’t get to really explore anytime I went as I spent  most time with family. I wanted to actually experience West Africa for myself as an adult.

What was your process for planning such an intricate trip and cultivating this new experience?

Wind Collective is a  travel group company that sparked my interest from social media and I decided to do my research into them. The process wasn’t too complicated but was fairly easy on the website. They take care of a lot of things, like transportations, access, and activities. Although, the flight and itinerary prices were separate. They planned an all-inclusive trip including activities as well as food (breakfast and dinner). Evenings were our time as a group to explore the city together and attend events happening locally. 

West Africa is one of the best places to be in the world with a rich culture, diversity. I will recommend the experience.

INTERVIEW NOTE: Wind Collective is a global travel company and one of its co-founders being @movewithdoyin! Another awesome woman who chronicled her traveling journey on Instagram a few years back (I actually used to follow her page back then until I realized her traveling reality was very far from my budget student reality at the time, lool), it’s awesome to see things come full circle and to see her actualize her goals.

How did you manage with COVID? Preparation. I had to bring so many documents and had to create a folder on my phone to ensure I had all the right documents. Took 4 PCR tests in total when leaving and coming back to London and these had to be pre-booked beforehand and arranged. money was spent alone on  COVID testing. This was the part of the trip I enjoyed the least with having to take so many tests and having to check the requirements.

How was your experience like traveling with a group of friends? 

I wasn’t too worried about that as the agency was reputable and if you are going to be spending money to travel surely it’s a guarantee that vibes will be had by all. It helps that everyone had good intentions and were friendly because that reduces any issues. We created a Whatsapp group before traveling to coordinate things and even had a meeting at the airport so we could start getting to know each other better. We were also quite busy having a good time and enjoying the experiences. 

What were some places you visited and which activities stood out to you ?

Our trip to the Cape Coast Castle, which is a monument used during the transatlantic slave trade to hold captives for months before being shipped to the US. It was such a moving and beautiful experience to see the space and area people were held captive yet being able to come back there as a free person. It’s closeness to the beach and the sea highlights a beautiful background with such terrible memories. Will definitely want to go back to the Cape Coast it has a vibe I really liked, and I can’t really explain it.

In addition, from the itinerary itself I enjoyed cooking different ghanaian recipes and just spending time with the people. The resort we stayed at was a family run business by a local woman and her adult children and we would have sessions of dancing and singing songs coming back home. It brought a unifying experience with being a Nigerian but yet being home in Ghana, I felt like I was back home. West African culture in general is very welcoming and warm.

What I appreciated the most is the welcoming nature and seeing people trying to help each other. People are generally more open and warm.

What are some of the key takeaways you have from the trip?

It was refreshing to be in a different environment. Living in London we can get used to living the fast paced life but taking a step away from the city, I was able to breathe a bit more. I felt more relaxed and happier and could smile more and release some tension. I appreciated the welcoming nature and seeing people trying to help each other. Africans are generally more open and warm.

African Women tend to be open and warm

Taking trips like this is something I aspire to continue in the future. I am familiar with the hustler babe mentality because I want to be comfortable but I also want to live a life I can enjoy. Your environment can determine the quality of your life. Of course there are people who are struggling there but in the future I see myself living in West Africa and the possibility has become open to me. 

The trip has made me think about life in London and how living is very confined and with a lot of hustle. I am proud of my heritage, I love being Black and African!

Tips for Trip Planning? 

1. Ensure you research the travel agency you plan to work with. Check their testimonials and check their social media pages and see what people are saying in the comments.

 2. Budget, ensure you have enough saved to account for your trip. There might be costs you didn’t plan for. Look into travel insurance, which is still a good thing to have. Have extra cash in case of emergencies.  

3. Research the country and destination you are going to and look to see what you need to do. Don’t leave it last minute in case you have to pay for things like a visa.

Advice for budding travelers? 

You can travel anywhere, it doesn’t have to be somewhere magnificent or even somewhere international. Spend more time considering what is important to you in life, and this can make you even more productive. Take time to reflect, explore your world to realize what is best for you and what you’d like to do with your life.  Be open to the possibilities, you may have an idea how you want things to be and then you might end in Bali doing community service

 Do not be too rigid but yet travel responsibly, respect the culture and the land and the people. Give back if you can as you are taking a lot of nice memories with you.


I’m Susy, a twenty-something Nigerian currently living in London. I work from home as a Project Administrator but I’m still trying to find what I am really called to do, the possibilities are endless.

I enjoy traveling, connecting with dope individuals and having a good time! 

You can find me on IG – susyajy





Mo 🙂


Having an uprightness of heart that is reflected in our actions and develops into excellence of character such that we pursue righteousness and can perform good deeds.

This can sometimes be synonymous with kindness but essentially anything that is morally right and beneficial.

In Philippians, Paul gives parting words to the church saying;

The Gospel

Whatsoever things are excellent, profitable, useful, beneficial and morally right for the advancement of the Gospel (known as the good news)is what we engage in. There is a reason why the Gospel is called the Good News.  Possessing moral goodness and integrity. Goodness means avoiding evil and all its appearances and holding on to what is right.

Goodness does not react to evil but absorbs the offense and responds with
positive action.

Sometimes this can be linked with justice and fighting for the oppressed and marginalized in society because according to Psalm 112:7

"Good will come to those who are generous and lend freely,
    who conduct their affairs with justice"

In addition, I love the plain definition in Micah 6:8 (ERV)

"Human, the Lord has told you what goodness is.
    This is what he wants from you:
Be fair to other people.
    Love kindness and loyalty,
    and humbly obey your God."

There it is plain and simple in the Word. Goodness is seen in our actions but it requires not only doing good but being good. In being good we know that no one is good except God. So our goodness comes from us allowing the Holy Spirit rule in our hearts such that that uprightness of heart is exercised within us.

The Good thing vs The God thing

One of the greatest signs we are maturing in our walk with Christ is that we can discern the “good things” from “God things”. What might look good and morally conscious from the human perspective it may not necessarily be the God thing right there and then.

The goodness of God always looks at things from a heavenly and kingdom perspective. Imagine being one of the disciples when Jesus was narrating the story of how he will be crucified. Matthew 16: 21-27, is the breakdown of Jesus explaining the process to the disciples. Obviously the good thing was to rebuke Jesus, as a disciple who loved him deeply, I can only imagine the disciples wondering why He was narrating such terrible things. In fact, it can appear shocking that Jesus rebukes Peter in verse 23 saying;

“Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns.”

I feel touched on Peter’s behalf! He brought felt like he was doing the right thing but it wasn’t the ‘God thing’ meaning it wasn’t aligned with God’s perfect plan with bringing redemption to the human race. It was an excellence of character and the God nature in Jesus that caused him to choose to do the God thing over the good thing. He could have easily chosen to keep on living since he was saving lives and healing people right? Surely, he would be more useful alive than dead? But there was a bigger goal in mind. The eternal salvation of souls was at stake.

And because Jesus Christ choose to walk that path to the Cross, you and I have been ransomed and brought back into perfect relationship with God. That good deed Jesus followed through on can inspire us all to go out and live out the nature of Christ in us.

In order for us to exhibit God’s goodness in us and maintain that uprightness of heart, we need to spend time in the presence of God continually. Therefore, the prayer for us all is that;

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow us all the days of our life, and we shall dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

Psalm 23:6 (esv)

Further study/References

The Hope project study resources


Mo 🙂


Happy Black History Month y’all!

Black History month is celebrated in North America in the month of February as a way to showcase the achievements of black people and to highlight their great contributions to the community and society at large. Why not start from the little beginnings and celebrate the great black people in our locality. Today, we will be highlighting James Bamisaye, an alumni from the Faculty of Engineering at the University of Alberta and who is now pursuing a career as a pilot. It’s giving #BlackBoyJoy. Hope you are inspired and empowered by his achievements!

What does this word ‘SOAR’ mean to you?

The word soar means flying real high above everything. It reminds me of the eagles in NatGeo Wild documentaries that fly above everything looking for their next prey. 

What does black history month mean for you?

Black history month is a month to celebrate and honor black people and leaders around the world for the contributions and the achievements that we continue to make in sports, music, education, medicine, movies and frankly every aspect of life. 

Give us a little bit of information about your background?

I was born in Nigeria. Moved to Canada alone when I was 17. Did a year of high school and then a 4 year Engineering degree at the University of Alberta. After graduation, I made the decision to go for it and pursue flight training to become an airline pilot someday. 

Why did you decide to transition into the aviation industry?

I wouldn’t call it a transition per se. I kinda took the longer route if you ask me. As a kid, I knew I wanted to be a pilot. I told everyone that would listen haha. At the time though, my thought process was: what happens if I can’t fly due to a medical reason or something else you know at least I will have a degree that I can fall back on. So I went and got one first and now I am on the way to becoming an airline pilot. I have my private pilot license and later this year I hope to continue training to get a commercial pilot  license.

How were you able to do this? Some practical tips in terms of researching opportunities, saving and work/life balance, motivating yourself through the process etc..

Since it was always my dream I made plans early. I knew flight training was super expensive so I started saving up from year 1 of university. All the scholarships I got from getting into University, I put aside. When I worked in the summers, I saved more money from my income. I have been fortunate to come from a family where my parents can provide for my needs too. So when my dad would send me money in university for food and miscellaneous expenses, I would put away some too for the flight training fund. I always had a plan. 

I did a lot of research on the internet on the path to becoming a pilot because there are several options out there. I messaged random pilots of instagram for direction and advice and seeing their content motivated me as well. The journey is hard but constantly reminding myself that one day I will get to where I am trying to go as well as seeing those ahead of me succeed is all the motivation I need to keep going. 

As a young black man how has it been navigating the aviation industry?

It can take a little effort to find representation on this side of the world naturally with a lesser black population in a highly specialized industry like aviation. Summer 2021, I participated in an Alberta air tour where different pilots came out and we flew around several airports in Central to Northern Alberta. I remember looking around after we landed in Westlock and I was the only black pilot there.

I stand out physically and that’s why I gotta be the best and represent well.

I make content on Instagram to inspire, motivate and guide other black men and anyone else really to follow their passion in aviation. I reckon if people see someone like them actively pursuing what they would like to pursue as well, they would feel more comfortable approaching for guidance. When I was starting my journey, I could only find black pilots on social media and I reached out and followed them. There are associations for black pilots too that one can join to meet other black pilots.

What is one philosophy that helps you SOAR in other areas of life as well?

A positive mindset, outlook and thinking always. No one is going to push you farther than yourself. You can draw inspiration from others on the way but at the end of the day you gotta do the work. It isn’t always going to go smoothly too. You will face setbacks, hard days and feel like giving up. Rest if you need to but get back up and do your thing.

Lastly, how can people support you and follow your journey?

You can follow my journey on my Instagram social media page. I make content to share what aviation looks like from the perspective of a pilot and to inspire as many people as I possibly can. I do appreciate people who interact with my content in whatever way. Flight training is also really expensive which has been my greatest hurdle so far so if you have any rich dads, mums, uncles, aunties who are looking to do the Lord’s Work hit me up haha. 

You can connect with James at:

Instagram: @james_bamisaye

Email: bamisaye@ualberta.ca


Mo 🙂


 This is compassion in action that requires a sympathetic heart and involves giving to others beyond what they deserve but also what would be beneficial to them.

Some definitions have described kindness as ‘possessing moral goodness and integrity and also generously expressing it in our interactions with others.’

God’s Kindness vs Human Niceness

At times kindness can be aligned with niceness but being nice is something limited to the human nature and is a trait that the human mind repurposed to represent a version of God’s kindness. Human niceness however is limited in that being nice is us wanting to be in the good graces of someone else.

Being nice varies depending on people’s reactions to us and if it’s appealing to the situation. Meanwhile kindness is dependent on understanding what is beneficial for others and ourselves is necessary to achieving God’s intended purpose in our lives. It doesn’t vary depending on what is happening, kindness is always kindness, but being nice can differ depending on the situation.

Philippians 2:3-4 talks about thinking of others as better than ourselves this goes against our natural human tendency and the pride of the flesh. Who doesn’t want to save the best options for themselves and think highly of themselves? But Paul admonishes us to “look out for the interests of others as well and not be so self involved in our own situations alone.”

The idea of thinking of others as better than ourselves is linked to Paul’s definition of humility which involves having a true perspective of ourselves rather than the grandiose larger than life perspective we may tend to have.

In popular culture, there has been this terminology of being a ‘main character’ in your life’s narrative. This means you perceive situations and people’s encounters with you simply from your own perspective. This can sometimes bleed into cancel culture as we automatically believe everything done by others is a reflection of us and how they view us. Sometimes it really isn’t about us at all!

Jesus Christ – Eternal Symbol of Kindness

But God’s kindness is all-knowing and so much more inclusive of our weak frames. In sending his Son Jesus Christ, that is the perfect evidence of God’s kindness to the human race. He knew what we needed and provided a solution to the problem of sin and for our redemption even as we are undeserving of this grace daily.

The bible says “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” (Hebrews 4:15)

Jesus Christ is the greatest symbol of God’s kindness to us. He understands us and can sympathize with us. This is the same kindness that God expects us to show to others, to be understanding of their situations as best as we can and to sympathize with them in humility, attempting to view things from their perspective.

It goes beyond just giving to charity, although that is a part of showing kindness rather it requires that we sympathize with the plight and situation of others.


Back in the day we know Christians used this slogan “What would Jesus do?” to try and rationalize what actions to take in different settings. The Holy Spirit produces the Spirit of Kindness within us and divinely enables us to put compassion in action.

As we have freely been given, we also should freely give to others. Kindness is unmerited favor, showing mercy and good nature to someone that may not deserve it. If someone did deserve it, you are giving them what they are owed by in showing kindness you are from a perspective that is yours. Kindness comes from a place of compassion and can be closely aligned with empathy. It means giving to others beyond that which we may owe them.

"Don't you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can't you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?" 
Romans 2:4

Kindness & Forgiveness

Just as God shows us Kindness, it is meant for a greater purpose so that we are led to repentance daily and can submit ourselves to His grace and love. God is patient, kind and tolerant to us so we can also be patient, kind and tolerant with others.

May we not be like that unkind servant who after being pardoned by his master, doesn’t share that same grace with those owing him debts and chases after them for restitution (read: Matthew, 18:23-3)

The largest huddle to extending kindness to the same degree we receive from Christ is the fear that people will and do take advantage of that. That is why kindness is giving to others beyond what we owe them or what we think they deserve. We tend to question ourselves is my act of kindness being too naive or unwise in certain ways? Will my kindness be taken advantage of by others?

God leading us and the Holy Spirit guiding us will enable us to give beyond our capacity but not in detriment to ourselves. We place our focus on what God has called us to do in obedience to Him and leave the rest to God to handle on our behalf. If God enables us to show kindness regardless of if it makes us seem silly and weak in the eyes of the world then by all means call me weak! Because guess what it is in our weakness that God showcases his strength (2 Corinthians 2:9) and more so the foolish things of this world is what God uses to confound those that think they are wise (1 Corinthians 1:27). The result of our kindness should point others to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Either in showcasing your act of kindness you are given the opportunity to share the nature of Christ at work in you or practically people are drawn to the light and goodness of Christ and want to know the source of that kindness. This is what the fruit of God’s kindness should produce in our lives.

May God help us to live a life of kindness to ourselves and also to those around us, especially those it might be harder for us to show kindness.

Further Study/References:

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A Seasoned Love

I was incredibly privileged to have a quick chat with Pastors Lanre and Tinu Ajanaku from my local parent church. They are such a wonderful couple and a great example of love and faithfulness. It’s endearing to see and learn love from the seasoned veterans in this life journey, as they offer insights through a biblical exegesis of some verses that can aid the single season. These are just a few bible verses that may be likely to cause confusion or raise questions in some of our minds.

Shout out to their seasoned love and for sharing their insights with those of us that are up and coming in this journey! Enjoy the nuggets 🙂

According to Ecclesiastes 4: 9-11, what can we determine to be the benefits of being married?

“9Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 

10If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 

11Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone?”

Well firstly, this verse speaks on friendships but ultimately friendship leads to marriage and it highlights one of the beauties of marriage which is the synergy in companionship. For example, when one member of the partnership is down the other can help to support and lift their partner. It takes two to advance progressively. The popular saying states that “If you want to go fast go alone but if you want to go far go with people.”. The strength of marriage is found in that synergy when two people come together to support each other.

This verse looks at the differences that can become an advantage in marriage. Like an extrovert getting married to an introvert, both parties can balance each other well. The differences in relationships can become an advantage in marriage. This is one of the topics we speak about at Dominion Voice Christian Outreach. For example, if two individuals both have strong opinions or are both highly analytical there won’t be any forward movement. Rather, if one is a risk taker and the other conservative with decisions it’ll be easier to make decisions. This means that the two people cannot fall at the same time. Paul here is advocating for friendships, partnerships and relationships in general.

In contrast, 1 Corinthians 7: 32- 35 seems to highlight the benefits of being single?

“32I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him.

 33But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 

34His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 

35I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.”

In these verses of scriptures Paul is addressing the idea of unity within marriage. There is no hard or fast rule about these things. There is responsibility within marriage. It’s a major issue if there is no unity within a marriage. For example, couples having a joint bank account but with no joint heart or united idea on how that money should be spent is problematic. This verse is addressing the topic of responsibility. The situation being described here may not hold much ground if the couple are united. If goals are not aligned then there will be issues and strife in the relationship. Any man not providing for his household is worse than an unbeliever as his sole focus will be divided. The bible says in Isaiah 26:3

“You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!” 

We are able to do multiple things like build a family and raise children and still keep our mind on God.

A little further in verse 35, it states that the things that will help us serve God best is having as little distractions as possible. It talks about the idea of having one mind. It all depends on what will keep our hearts stayed on God. With our mind fixed on Christ, distractions will be minimized.

Last scripture reference is Acts 21: 7-9 What is the significance of this verse?

“7The next stop after leaving Tyre was Ptolemais, where we greeted the brothers and sisters and stayed for one day. 

8The next day we went on to Caesarea and stayed at the home of Philip the Evangelist, one of the seven men who had been chosen to distribute food.

 9He had four unmarried daughters who had the gift of prophecy.”

This reference to Evangelist Philip having “unmarried daughters” is used simply as a descriptor. It shows that the daughters were willing vessels being used by God. The emphasis of ‘unmarried’ could refer to their purity and their purity of mind showing the ease for the Holy Spirit to flow through them.

5 useful tips for Marriage and Partnership

  1. Leading of the Holy Spirit. One’s ability to hear and also obey the voice of the Holy Spirit. How does the Holy Spirit speak to you? Figure that out before you enter marriage.
  2. Knowledge. You require knowledge of your partner, knowledge of God and knowledge of marriage. You need to continue to grow in knowledge in all these areas. Be aware of what is happening around you and within you, you cannot stay ignorant or be carelessly flippant about obtaining necessary knowledge in these areas.
  3. Passion for Jesus. Staying passionate about the things of God will help you stay aligned such that nothing will be able to distract. You’d be able to speak to anyone about Christ.
  4. Understanding. This allows you to apply the knowledge you have to help it become profitable to you. Understanding is a gift that can help us understand why our spouse may be behaving in a certain way. Their background or career path can help explain  their response to certain situations. Understanding is what connects knowledge and action together.
  5. Prayer. In the place of prayer we place our total dependence on God, knowing that the battle is not to the strong (Ecclesiastes 9:11). There is a need for studying the Word and praying. The ability to be and stay in God’s presence through fellowship and worship.

TWO Things that have helped within the Marital Journey

  1. Power of One Voice. Having a united front and learning to default to one decision such that even if we speak different languages (love languages or otherwise), we are still able to come to a consensus on any particular topic and move as a unit.
  2. Freedom to Be You. Allowing your spouse to freely be themselves and not trying to conform them to YOUR pattern. We find freedom in our unique expressions. And working to accommodate our spouse such that we allow them to enjoy and find pleasure in things that bring them joy.


Pastors Lanre & Tinu Ajanaku are the ministers in charge of the Dominion Voice Christian Outreach which is an outreach ministry that gathers monthly to have biblical based teachings and discussions.

I hope you’ve been inspired by the lessons and insights shared by the seasoned veterans. May all our homes be blessed and may we bring God glory in how we flourish in our relationships.



Mo 🙂

A Letter to My Lover

To the One who saves me and covers me daily. The One who calms all my fears and anxieties while rejoicing over me with joyful songs. The One who sanctifies me daily, my Jehovah Mekaddishkem

To the One who has redeemed me and that continues to save and rescue my soul from the pit of darkness and hopelessness.

The One that created melodious tunes just for me so I can have epic dance parties in my bedroom, in the safety of fellowship with Him. He is the One that causes me to delight in Him.

To the lover of my soul, You are worthy.

The One who sees my flaws and still loves me the same. That sees my insecurities and doesn’t shy away from them. He doesn’t withhold his love and affection from me because of my weak frame and shortcomings, rather He lavishes his love upon me. The one that cuts deep down into the most intimate part of my nature and my person.

To my divine husbandman, the one who cultivates and nurtures me to fully become all I was created to be.

The One that renews my strength when needed. He brings me the right flowers at the right time. He drops little trinkets of refreshment and reminders of our love story throughout my day. The One that sends me cute messages throughout the day either through his Word, the mouth of His creation or in my memories. The One whose presence gladdens my heart. Where I am free from the bondage of portraying a false image and living up to an expectation others place on me or that I place on myself.

To the lover of my soul, You are worthy.

In his presence I can fully exhibit my goofy, silly, and child-like self because he creates a safe space for me yet lovingly works with me to be transformed into His image. You know what they say about a husband and wife starting to look alike after a few years, that is what I hope to achieve with the lover of my soul.

It is said that the greatest desire of our hearts is to be fully known and fully loved and the love of God is so potent that NOTHING can separate us from this love.

A love that is intentional, purposeful, and deliberate. The One that is intentional in the way He loves me and listens to the yearnings of my heart and shows up in those little unique ways He knows that only I can pick up on.

The love that enables me to soar on wings like an eagle with the assurance that He’s got my back at all points in time.

He isn’t ashamed to introduce me to his bosom friends in the person of the Trinity. He provides little gifts and resources to me through His Holy Spirit.

His sweet words whispered in my heart is the foundation and strength of my life that helps to sustain me. It’s not like the sweet nothings a mere man whispers, rather my savior’s sweet words are refreshing to my soul and Spirit.

There are several layers to this love as He continues to reveal new aspects and facets of His character to me. In doing this, He also illuminates interesting parts of myself to me, reminding me that I am made in His image.

He is my covering and my defender. When issues are plaguing my mind and causing me anxiety, He is always willing to hear and more than that He is willing to fight for me and go to war on my behalf. He employs the heavenly hosts as the God of Heaven’s Armies to always defend my cause.

Thank you Father God, Thank You darling Jesus & Thank you Sweet Holy Spirit. Thank You for making me your delight and for claiming me as your bride. I am eternally grateful.

From now till eternity,

Lots of Love,

Your Child (insert name here)

Let’s take a moment today to read this to ourselves (or to your loved one if they are nearby), and bask in the love of Our Father. Nothing else can compare to it.

Happy Valentine’s Day!


Mo 🙂


Our capacity to withstand delay, challenging situations or suffering with endurance and perseverance while exhibiting good attitudes to God and our fellow men during this period.

Some of the result of the fruit of patience in our lives is that we are transformed beyond comprehension. People no longer see us but see Christ at work in our lives. Our normal trigger responses to situations will be brought under subjection as we allow the Holy Spirit directs our responses.

It’s the same all over the world. The Message bears fruit and gets larger and stronger, just as it has in you. From the very first day you heard and recognized the truth of what God is doing, you’ve been hungry for more. It’s as vigorous in you now as when you learned it from our friend and close associate Epaphras. He is one reliable worker for Christ! I could always depend on him. He’s the one who told us how thoroughly love had been worked into your lives by the Spirit.

 Be assured that from the first day we heard of you, we haven’t stopped praying for you, asking God to give you wise minds and spirits attuned to his will, and so acquire a thorough understanding of the ways in which God works. We pray that you’ll live well for the Master, making him proud of you as you work hard in his orchard. As you learn more and more how God works, you will learn how to do your work. We pray that you’ll have the strength to stick it out over the long haul—not the grim strength of gritting your teeth but the glory-strength God gives. It is strength that endures the unendurable and spills over into joy

Colossians 1: 6-11

Patience is the strength to endure. Patient people tend to be incredibly resilient and strong people. Here we see Paul commending and encouraging the Colossians to stick it out in their faith walk. He also highlights the fact that it isn’t something one can do in one’s power or might because it doesn’t come from ‘gritting your teeth‘ and striving in your own power. Instead, the patience and glory-strength that comes from God can provide the needed tools to ‘stick it out‘ which can eventually fill our hearts with joy.


Patience has also been identified as longsuffering in the Bible. According to Dictionary.com this is a form of patience exercised despite troubles, most especially caused by other people. The meaning of long suffering therefore is a little bit different to patience in that it refers to an endurance we exhibit while waiting on God as we go through unpleasant circumstances. It isn’t necessarily about the waiting itself, but how we respond and act during the waiting periods. The state of our minds and the tone of our responses during those seasons.

In relation to others, patience is the ability to bear the imperfections of other people, through a knowledge of our own imperfections and our need for God’s mercy and forgiveness.

 “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love."
 Ephesians 4:2

Patience really is an interesting attribute because we need special grace to be able to truly walk in patience. At times we are all happy to receive grace from God as he patiently deals with us and waits for us to come back to Him (2 Peter 3:9). Meanwhile, we do not extend that same grace within our human relationships and do not deal in humility or gentleness with one another.

Herein enters the sweet Holy Spirit. Our ever present help. He helps set our targets and focus on what matters and what is eternal. We wait patiently because we believe in the reward we will receive at the end of our waiting period.

The Holy Spirit helps us by bringing this back to our memory and reminding us to keep our focus on the eternal goal. Reminding us that all is a means to an end so that we do not give up, and can reap the harvest of righteous living waiting for us at the end of this age.

What we can see is temporal, that which we cannot see that is eternal is what the hope fueling our patience is based upon.

"But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience." Romans 8:25

Is patience a virtue?

We have heard it said numerous times in passing that “patience is a virtue” but indeed it is a part of of the fruit of the Spirit. Yet it can also be one of the hardest things to practice and live out. Being careful not to bypass the lessons God is teaching us and not focusing on someone else’s assignment but rather placing your focus on that which is in front of you.

AMP version of Galatians 5: 22 -23 states:

"But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy, [inner] peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law."

MSG version of Galatians 5: 22 states that patience is ‘developing a willingness to stick with things

Anyone else thrown a temper tantrum last year due to hurt and disappointment from not having received that which we were waiting for. No one else? Just me?

screaming the help GIF

Patience is beyond just waiting and sitting pretty. It is rather about if we are pulling faces, rolling our eyes or doing the most in our reactions as we wait. Last year, there was a trend going on where people would video their children, as they would place a plate of gummies in front of them and walk away with simple instructions to the child, not to touch or eat the treat until their parent returns. Obviously children have different capacities from adults in terms of patience so you can only imagine the different video responses.

Cute GIF by Children's Miracle Network Hospitals

But, how are we as adults much different when it comes to waiting on God for something we want? Like the young children in the videos that waited, we can either wait and busy ourselves by doing other things, and not grumble and keep staring at the plate of treats. They distracted themselves with other things by playing with a toy or singing etc. Developing patience is a really hard skill and something we can only develop through the help of the Holy Spirit.

It can be especially difficult when you see God bringing that same blessings you are praying for to those around you. Imagine how that can make you feel. But, this is also where we learn to live beyond our feelings and trust the word of God. It’s a reminder that angels of answered prayers are in the vicinity. We rejoice with those that rejoice, celebrate with those that celebrate and cry with those that cry. When we have this kingdom mindset we see the win of our fellow brothers and sisters as our win. It means the kingdom of God is advancing as its people are prospering.

God is orderly and he plans all things according to His perfect will. Trusting that He will show up for us at the right time in the right format is what we need to hold on to.

This is the virtue of patience in our lives!

While Waiting

  1. Prayer really and truly is the key. We pray when we have good days, when we have difficult days when are overcome by sadness and a lack of direction. Prayer while in our waiting season is absolutely paramount to re-align our minds anytime we want to be led astray by our thoughts and expectations. Romans 12:12

2. Meditating on the Word. This is how we harness the power through the Holy Spirit to walk in patience and endurance.

Further Study/References:

Journeywoman podcast

Bible Study tools


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An inner quietness and trust in God’s sovereignty even in the midst of any situation, such that we are made complete and whole in Him.

There are two forms of biblical peace.

Objective peace relates to our relationship with God and is restored through the person of Jesus Christ. Subjective peace is related to our experiences in life and is influenced by the leading of the Holy Spirit within us.

Christ our Peace

Our understanding of this fruit, just like the rest is modelled through our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He came to restore and restore our relationship with God such that we can enjoy wholeness by trusting in God’s sovereignty in our lives.

"Therefore, since we have been made right in God's sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us."
Romans 5:1

This objective peace is needed because of the hostility that was brought between God and Man due to the fall of the First Adam. We see that sin entered the world through the first Adam in Romans 6:12. Therefore, the work Christ completed on the cross restored unity and peace back into our relationship with God. Such that we can trust in His goodness and faithfulness in completing His work in us. Now because of this initial conflict introduced into our world we need to constantly put “on all of God’s armor so that we will be able to stand firm against all the strategies of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:11). One of those armors we use is the ‘shoe of peace’. The shoe of peace that comes from sharing the Good News so that we can be fully prepared. This means we have peace in sharing the Gospel trusting in God’s sovereignty to show up, even in the midst of spiritual battles we may encounter in the form of resistance. Moreover this peace is settled and secure it isn’t dependent on our feelings or what we think because God’s Word, which is the Gospel is the foundation of truth. We have no need to fear or panic, which are some of the opposites to peace.

Perfect Peace from Fixed Thoughts

Meanwhile subjective peace is a tranquility of our soul that comes from relying in God as our great provider and sustainer in all situations.

 "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."  
Philippians 4:7

To guard our hearts means that this peace is kind of like the armor we spoke about earlier in that it acts as a defense against negative thoughts, hostile actions and hopeless situations. Imagine the anxiety and fear that gripped those disciples on the boat with Jesus when the he simply stated “Peace! Be Still!” Mark 4:38 – 41. And this is the result of the presence of Jesus in a stormy situation. He has given a Helper in the person of the Holy Spirit to give us the same authority to say to the stormy situations in our present life “Peace! Be Still!”

Isaiah 26:3 states that;

"You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!"

What does it mean to have ‘perfect peace‘?

It means we are undisturbed and unperturbed by what we see or feel or what is imposed on us. Having peace doesn’t mean we are oblivious to the reality we face but we learn to prioritize and place our focus instead on the sovereignty of God. We leave the things we cannot control in the hands of the Lord and focus on working on the things we can focus on.

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
 John 16:33


The rich and full expression of God’s will for us in the midst of every situation we encounter. The Hebrew “Shalom” which is usually linked to peace and is popularly used as a greeting to end or start conversations and can loosely be translated to meaning “May you be full of well-being, health and prosperity.” It was used as a way to proclaim health and wholeness and good well-being to those one conversed with.

Therefore, we end today’s blog post wishing all Shalom!

May the peace of God grant us inner strength and deep focus such that we shall look to and wait on God even as we enter this glorious weekend. Amen!

According to Thessalonians 3:16 “Now may the Lord of peace himself give us His peace at all times and in every situation. The Lord be with us all.”


Further Study/References:

Breakdown of Shalom

Gift of Peace article


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