Let’s Talk About It…The Men

Continuing off from last week’s topic on ‘The Single Life’ this week we are focusing more specifically on the men aka the mandem. Over time, I have noticed that there seems to be a lot of visible resources that is targeted specifically to young women to help them become all that God has ordained them to be. But, then one wonders what about the young men? It seems women are more primed and encouraged to work on themselves whilst the men are usually just taught that ‘boys will be boys’. Well, in today’s society one cannot get away with that mentality anymore. I have been actively trying to learn about how men think coming from a family of men; in my father, brothers, uncles, guy friends and now seeing young nephews growing up, this makes me wonder  ‘What does it mean to be a man?‘ Gabe from Project 3:30 and  ‘The Greater Podcast’ gives us some amazing insight into this topic.

Check it out and don’t forget to comment and share your thoughts! Also, connect with Gabe and the guys at Project 3:30 and The Greater podcast!

This week’s topic is on ‘Boyz to Men’

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1. What does the term ‘manhood’ mean to you? 
I think manhood describes the life journey of becoming older as a male. Whatever these experiences include.
2. How do you personally measure transition from a child into a young man? What are the tell-tale signs ?
I think maturity and the handling of responsibility are the measures. I wouldn’t say actual accolades or accomplishments dictate the transition because some people’s paces are different than others, I really think it is about how you handle what you face.
3. In light of the current social climate and police brutality and racism in the Western world towards young black men in particular, how have you navigated through these issues personally?
For me, I have tried my best to not only stay informed but stay connected and supportive. I have experienced the hate that comes from police brutality and racism but I understand it may not be to the same degree as others. It is important to me to stand in unity when fighting against the system that oppresses black people as a whole. I have spent time talking to those close to me and contributing to causes that bring change.
4. What does biblical manhood mean to you? How does it differ from the worldly view of being a man?
I think it all goes to responsibility and stewardship, I look at a lot of the stories in the bible that surround the men and a lot of it alludes to them being responsible for something, whether it was their family or craft. Obedience was a big theme. 
5. What have been some of your highlights and lowlights of transitioning into young adulthood as a man? 
I think the lowlights have been really facing circumstances that were bigger than me. The ones I couldn’t just manipulate and even learn from hard conversations and experiences involving others. Realizing that I had to learn to love and communicate for effective relationships was hard but self-development may have been hardest.

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Let’s Talk About It…The Single Life

The topic on how to live the single life well has always been a hot topic among young adults around the world. So, had to invite the amazing writer Mr Iremide Akinsola to share his views and wisdom on how to navigate this aspect of life for all my fellow young adults.

Check it out and share your thoughts and suggestions!

This week’s topic is on The Single Life

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1.What is your relationship status?


2. How have you navigated or are currently navigating your single life ?

I am enjoying this phase! I understand that this is an important season for building a strong foundation for the future. So I’m working and trying to grow in my walk with God, earnestly desiring that Christ is formed in me. Trusting Him to prune and refine me.

My relationship with family and loved ones is a major part of my life. So I try to ensure that they know how much they mean to me. And also that I’m there for them.

My work/ministry is really important to me. I consistently invest in ensuring that I perform excellently in all that God has called me to do in the areas that He has placed me.

Also, I take time to just enjoy myself. Dancing around the house. Laughing. Taking a stroll. Living!


3. What has been your biggest struggle as a single man?

Fixing my eyes so much on tomorrow that I don’t remember to enjoy today. Growing up, I had the problem of being too future-oriented.

I remember that at my secondary school Valedictory Service, I was thinking about how much I would miss my friends. Friends that were still with me at that point in time. Rather than enjoy myself and live in the moment, I focused on what was to come.

I don’t want to make the same mistake and I’m being intentional about it. I’m learning to add spontaneity to the structure of my activities. I’m learning to create and document memories. I’m learning to smell the roses. I’m learning to enjoy where I am! To maximize this season of my life. And indeed every season, as life unfolds.


Also, there’s the constant temptation which comes from media and the society at large. It’s a challenge to stay sane amidst the crazy things that the world brings up.

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Let’s Talk About It…pt 2

If you haven’t already, go check Part 1 of the Social Justice topic with Victor from The Alive Podcast. Today his co-host on The Alive Podcast, Tommy will be sharing his thoughts on Social Justice.

Comment your thoughts, views and suggestions and feel free to also connect with Tommy and check out his podcast!

This Week’s topic is on Social Justice

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1. What is your current thought about the current situation of the world (Coronavirus, Rape Culture in Nigeria, Race Issues in the Western word & Police Brutality). 

Coloma Vilus, COVID-19, Coronavirus and all its various nomenclature. Personally, the pandemic for me has actually been a time for personal holistic growth. In relation to the world I understand that it has made life for some people a bit challenging and some others created opportunity. It is truly an unprecedented event that no man could have accurately foretold or predicted. The take-away for me whenever it ends God willing, should be using the time available to grow spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. I see this event as a test on our faith and to overcome it we have to create a solid relationship with God and trust Him all the way.

Rape culture in Nigeria, race issues in the Western world and Police brutality. I feel these vices should not just be limited to rape culture in Nigeria but there should be more attention to gross violence against women regardless of location, race issues in western world and police brutality as actions fueled by hatred and rage. Regardless, my stand on something as rape culture will be rape of any form, violence or violation of any human being is morally wrong. These actions have the tendency of negatively impacting people (in this case women) in the most devastating way I will never understand. Race issues and police brutality have been vices created from gross abuse of authority, hatred stemming from biases against people due to skin color, gender and race. I feel it is time in Nigeria that we start having an open dialogue communication on the issues of rape culture, readdressing bills that support the current age of consent, proper sex education right from our lower educational institutions. On the topic of race issues and police brutality the approach to that has to also come from a place of open dialogue, redressing a lot of institutionalized biased agendas, yes peaceful protest but I believe more importantly love and understanding. Love is a concept people have really failed to grasp and do not get me wrong it is a very difficult concept to grasp and apply if you are working by your own strength. True agape love and understanding is a gift of the Holy Spirit. He freely gives this if we can start humbling and yielding ourselves to Him.

2. What was your first reaction to these issues even as they are brought to the public forefront at this time?

I honestly did not take the whole COVID situation seriously, I knew of a potential threat of it happening in the World, but I never realized it would have the ripple effect of crippling business, economies, schools, healthcare, government, church, pretty much our regular daily life activities. It has truly been an interesting journey.

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Let’s Talk About It…pt 1

Welcome to the month of August!

Hope this month will be good to us all!
Since 2020 seems to have been adding twists and turns I decided to start a new series to address a few issues relating to young adults and just this current social climate we are living in. As we are all learning and trying to figure things out I asked a few people to collaborate and share their views on some topics!
I hope you enjoy the series and please feel free to comment your thoughts and check out the work of the amazing guest writers!
This week’s topic is on Social Justice 

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1. What is your current thought about the current situation of the world (Coronavirus, Rape Culture in Nigeria, Race Issues in the Western world & Police Brutality)
I think we are in strange times. 
COVID-19: The coronavirus pandemic has changed our society in ways we don’t fully understand yet. It has also given individuals a compelling reason for proactive introspection. While human behaviours will slowly return to how it was before COVID, I expect that we will see policy changes/regulations on national and or municipal levels that will reflect lessons learned from the pandemic. Also, I think this is something my grandchildren will ask me about when they come visit in the summer after Grade 10.
Rape Culture In Nigeria: I can only imagine the physical and psychological damage that follows being violated in such a gruesome way. And it is disheartening to know that, in many cases, the rapists get away with it. Meanwhile, the lack of a strong support system for rape victims in Nigeria is a poignant reminder of how much still needs to be done. I hope that #JusticeForUwa will not just be another trendy hashtag; I hope that it will be the beginning of a change. I believe that a proactive effort to identify and prosecute rapists is a step in the right direction. Beyond that though, and perhaps more importantly, a strong network of support for rape victims is necessary.
Race Issues  & Police Brutality: I happen to believe that there are good people on either side of the aisle. There are bad cops; and, dare I say it, there are good cops. And many racists don’t wear a police badge. In my naive opinion, it will be unfair to liken every police in America to Derek Chauvin. That said, I believe that reforms can and should be done to address policies in policing that target minorities. More importantly, though, I believe if there’s an effort to address racism in the greater society, the results will be amplified. Having said that, I agree with Denzel Washington in saying that love cannot be legislated. People must choose to love and this is where we need God big time.

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KIERRA (2020) Album Review

So I recently have been looking for clips on The Clark Sisters due to their recent Lifetime biopic. As I usually do, I went on a YouTube rampage and started to research into who the Clark Sisters are and what they’re all about. Of course I stumbled upon Karen Clark Sheard and I had known of her for a few years as well as her daughter Kierra Sheard but I think I gained a new found respect for her and her ministry. The mother-daughter relationship reminds me of the verse in Psalm 145: 4 which states

“One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”

Man, what a beautiful thing to leave a godly legacy and start a path that future generations can follow and build their walk with Christ upon. Anyways, in my ‘research’ I discovered Kierra’s new album!


Now don’t get me wrong I had listened and knew of Kierra Sheard here and there but listening to this album gave me a new found admiration for her. As you may know if you’re an avid follower of the blog I love me some Jonathan McReynolds music.


One of the reasons I truly appreciate his music is because of the transparency and authenticity in his songs. His lyrics at times speak directly to the situations in my life as a young adult. The struggles, insecurities and doubts that we all go though he portrays so beautifully, eloquently and without judgement in his music and that is a powerful testimony. It reminds me of the verse that talks about they overcame him by the blood of the lamb and the power of their testimony.

“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.”

Revelations 12:11 (NIV)

The ‘him’ referred to here is the accuser that is the voice of insecurity,  feeling like you are not enough and just the general stress of life. We need the Holy Spirit and the power of God to set us free indeed but when ministers like Jonathan McReynolds and now Kierra Sheard can put those victories into song form, we remind ourselves daily of the victory and power we have in Christ Jesus. Our victory occurs in our personal life and it is an inside job which is then carried into our every day living in the way we speak, we think and we relate with others.  Anyways, back to the main topic! I decided to do a quick run down of Kierra’s latest album and share some of my thoughts!

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1. Don’t Judge Me ft Missy Elliott

Straight Banger Alert! This song represents to me the saying if you don’t anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all. I love the video too, you should check it out! But what I love about this is the transparency in which Kierra shares her past mistakes and embarrassing moments, we all have those once in a while!

Fav Lyrics:

‘I did it all for the first time

Made a mistake, but I earned mine I broke it on a one time

I’m glad I did it all my way

Fixed it on a front line

I’m over the pain

If I’m dancing when I wanna (Please don’t judge me) If I’m smiling when I’m under (Please don’t judge me) I just ran through the fire, Please don’t judge me

2. Always Win (Live)

Favourite song right now as a young woman this song is my anthem right now!! I love what Kierra Sheard stands for and I am totally rooting for her! I love how transparent she has been with her journey, her struggles and most importantly her victories (YASSS!).

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How to Cook Nigerian Spinach Stew (Efo Riro)

Efo Riro is a popular Nigerian dish commonly eaten with a carbohydrate of choice. It is basically spinach or kale (or whatever greens) in a tomato based sauce with protein garnishes.  I decided to try my hand at following a recipe of sorts to see how it turns out. Check it out and let me know what you think! And wait till the end for my taste review!
  1. Start with cooking your protein of choice. I select beef and shrimp (yum!)



2. Prepare tomato sauce by blending red peppers, tomatoes and onions (include scotch bonnets if you want extra flavour and spice)

3. Allow peppers to boil and add seasonings including salt

4. Wash and add locust beans to the cooking sauce

5. Wash and drain the stockfish or whatever other fish or additional protein of choice

6.  Add palm oil for the authentic Nigerian taste. Allow pepper to fry and for oil to rise to the top. Palm oil is the one thing I hadn’t added in the past when making this dish but decided to try this time. 

7. Add your main proteins. In this case cooked beef cubes, tripe and shrimp were added to the fried pepper.

8. Add your choice of vegetable to the sauce which in this case was spinach.

9. You may add beef stock from boiling your beef cubes for extra flavour.

Voila! the finished product 

Taste Review:

Adding the palm oil gave the dish an authentic Nigerian taste that i hadn’t really tasted before when making this dish in the past. Although, for the future I would want to try using fresh spinach leaves rather than frozen and maybe mix a bit of kale with the spinach too just to see if it changes the taste.

Let me know what you think and share your tips for perfecting the Nigerian Efo Riro recipe !


Mo 🙂

90’s inspired lookbook/outfit ideas

As things seem to be getting back to some version of normal, people are venturing out with hope of making the best of this summer. Although, we are now firmly in the decade 2020, let’s take things all the way back to the 1990’s. I decided to try out a look-book of sorts as I love the whole vibe of the 90’s and thought it would be an interesting style to try and reinvent with friends. As a proud 90’s baby I have taken solace that I am firmly in my young adulthood right now (yikes!), and sometimes it’s necessary to be nostalgic of the past and the things that reminds us of childhood. Holding onto that childhood inquisitiveness, helps to breed a wide avenue of creative ventures.

Disclaimer: we are not fashionistas o, we just wanted to dress up and enjoyed channeling the style of the 90’s. Enjoy the novice look-book and have a great summer 2020!

 Casual day-time looks

Look 1:

Look 2:

Summer date-night looks:

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Top binge worthy TV Shows from the 90’s

You might be familiar with ‘That 70’s Show’, well in today’s blog, I will be sharing some of my favorite 90’s TV shows.

Living Single

There is a big debate that this show was basically the original Friends and it was ripped off my major networks and marketed to a more Caucasian audience.

Likes: The dynamic of the characters and the great chemistry of the cast members. The theme song which was performed by Queen Latifah is also pretty dope and reminds me of a typical 90’s era soundtrack.


A Different World


Likes: The character development and the rapport of the various characters is very heartwarming especially Dwayne Wayne. Man! The character of Dwayne Wayne should be the poster boy for what growth looks like. And obviously we love a good love story (no spoilers!) Dwayne’s transformation is what you hope happens to you by attending university.


Sister Sister

Likes: The different mishaps the sisters get themselves into and how they navigate out of it while trying to outwit their parents. Sometimes it works out for them but most of the time not quite. It is also pretty interesting to see the physically growth of the sisters on the show as they literally grow up before our eyes.


Likes: Theme Song. The friendship between the crew and just how they always seemed to be there for each other.


The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air

Likes: Character Development. Will really transformed before our eyes on screen. His relationship with Uncle Phil is still iconic till today and helps some young men today navigate dealing with their emotions and helps tackle toxic masculinity


Likes: Man o man! The character of Adrian Monk is very interesting to say the least. At time he may come across as slightly annoying but you can’t help but love his character. Moreover, he was my first introduction to mental health on a major TV show. His regular meetings with his therapist can be quite insightful at times as he tells him things that we as an audience can see so clearly, yet Adrian seems oblivious to it. Just goes to show that sometimes talking issues out can be quite helpful.

The Golden Girls

Likes: Apart from the awesome theme song (y’all should check out this amazing remix version), this show displayed the beauty and importance of friendships even in old age. One learns to see the elderly like people with dreams, tendencies and habits just like everybody else.

It’s quite funny I just realized as I was putting this together that all these shows are sitcoms! Lol, I guess laughter really is the best medicine for the soul!

“We were filled with laughter, and we sang for joy. And the other nations said, ‘What amazing things the Lord has done for them.'”

– Psalms 126:2 (NLT)

What are some of your favorite tv shows from the 90’s or just in general?

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Mo 🙂

Tips for Planning a 90’s party

So I celebrated my birthday early last month and I was super blessed and highly favored to have been pleasantly surprised by my amazing friends with a 90’s themed party.

Although, they refuse to share the behind-the-scenes planning with me (yes, imma call all of you out on the blog, lol), I decided to share a few of my own personal tips for planning a 90’s themed party with a virtual twist.

  1. Snacks are the way to go!
2. Decor is key. It doesn’t have to be too fancy or over the top but the DIY vibe is very much 90’s.

3. Pick a great playlist. (Note: doesn’t necessarily exclusively have to be just songs from the 90’s era but whatever songs that reminds you of the 90’s aka fun and upbeat!)

 Some suggestions:

Optimistic – Sounds of Blackness

Ain’t no Stopping us Now – McFadden & Whitehead

Celebration – Kool & The Gang

Summertime – DJ Jazzy Fresh & The Fresh Prince

I Wanna Be The Only One – Eternal ft Bebe Winans

MMMBop – Hanson

Wannabe – Spice Girls

U Can’t Touch This – MC Hammer

Shackles (Praise You) – Mary Mary


4. Have fun and take lots of candid pictures!

Major shout-out to the birthday planning squad, y’all are amazing and planned a dope 90’s surprise party!


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Mo 🙂

Summer Vibes ‘20

Happy Canada Day y’all!

It’s interesting that usually July is seen as a month of freedom in the North American continent because Canada celebrates Canada Day while America celebrates Independence Day on July 4th. But then again the institutions of this countries are challenged as people wonder if indeed the freedom they seem to stand for is freedom indeed? If every person isn’t free then how can one person be free?

I don’t have the right answers neither do I claim to have them but what I do know is that who the Son sets free is free indeed (John 8:36). Lauryn Hill stated in her song,”How you gonna win, when you ain’t right within?”  It’s the same thing with freedom. It starts in the mind. Personally, operating as a child of God means unimaginable freedom for me, although that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve the right to basic rights and freedoms as a human being.  Let’s get to enjoying Summer 2020 regardless of whatever coronavirus and life tried to plan!

One of the things you can still do to celebrate with family and friends is have an outing, permitting that the weather is feasible and you maintain physical distancing of course!

Food is of course the first course of business and very important as much as the sights and just enjoying the summer weather.

Let’s get into it..Summer Vibes 2020

Views from the Bridge and Benchside

“And when God is personally present, a living Spirit, that old, constricting legislation is recognized as obsolete. We’re free of it! All of us!”

2 Corinthians 3:17 (MSG)


How do you plan to celebrate your Canada Day and the rest of your summer??



Mo 🙂

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